I came from a South Asian background and knew little about the city or its culture. My parents wanted me to study engineering and pursue my education abroad. My dream was different. I wanted to explore and enjoy life while studying at McGill University. The name, the history, the beautiful parks, the neighborhoods and the busy downtown drew me in even before my first class. My father had studied at McGill’s Macdonald Campus in West Island and often spoke about his time there. I studied at Dorset Elementary School during the course of his degree.
The lessons explained in this article are intended for international students and for those who travel from different provinces to begin their higher education journey. It is also important to mention that the lessons I discuss can be helpful for immigrants and for anyone who becomes a naturalized citizen anywhere in the world. The insights I share come from deep reflection and experiences shaped by the heart of Quebec, Montreal.
Too large a social circle to manage
As a student of Electrical Engineering at the toughest university in Canada, often known among students as the Harvard of Canada, I did not understand how much of a social circle was healthy or how having a very large group of friends could become detrimental to my goals. I had friends from Frosh week, friends from my high school in Lahore, friends from my classes, and others from student clubs such as the Pakistan Students Association and McGill Indo Pakistan Students. My circle grew even larger with seniors and juniors from South Asia. It felt like there was no end to it. There were also cigarette buddies who gathered outside the libraries for a break.
Slowly and steadily, my grades and academic standing were affected because I was trying to juggle a social life that was too large and scattered. I realized I was spending time with people who were not in my discipline and that I was not keeping pace with the demanding Electrical Engineering curriculum. Over time, the circle grew smaller and more focused as I shifted my attention back to studies and completing the degree. Many of my older friends graduated, some with excellent GPAs, and I was left with a few hardworking individuals who cared only about academics. This close-knit group became instrumental in helping me achieve a high GPA in my last two years and in completing my education in a little more than six years.
Stressing too much about grades and the degree
A McGill alumnus and my mentor from Lebanon once told me that when I get older, I will realize that the stress and anxiety I felt about my studies was not as serious as it seemed at the time. I went into probation during my first semester in Montreal and the stress about my academic standing was overwhelming. I worried constantly about whether I would ever finish my degree. The stress created nightmares that still occur. They feel so real that I wake up panicked, usually dreaming about a course I failed, a mid-term I missed or another semester I have to complete.
What once felt unimaginable now seems minor compared to the challenges of starting a business or finding the right job. The stress students take should never come at the cost of their peace of mind. I recommend future students keep their stress within healthy limits and stay mindful of their well-being.
Expecting different results with the same strategy
It is important to admit that I did little to improve my grades except worry and overthink. I did nothing concrete that would turn things around. I stayed within the same social circles, avoided befriending hardworking students, and kept looking for shortcuts. I chose professors known to be lenient and avoided the effort needed to truly excel.
I learned my lesson the hard way after receiving warnings from the student center. I changed my habits much later in my degree. I recommend that students carefully examine their study strategies and put in consistent effort instead of just aiming to pass. Increase your study hours, practice smart studying, and stay disciplined.
Not learning French during studies
Montreal is at the heart of Quebec and one of the most vibrant cities in Canada. It is one of the most live able and student friendly cities in North America. People arrive with different dreams and expectations. One important reality is that students should learn the French language spoken and written by Quebecois. Outside downtown, French is widely used and is essential for understanding the city and its culture.
I recommend that future international students research their destination well and begin learning the language before moving. Once you learn French, a new world opens up and you can explore the city with far greater confidence and enjoyment.
Not eating healthy or exercising
My diet was often a single Subway sandwich in a day. I did not eat healthy, and I smoked a pack of cigarettes daily. A cigarette and a can of Coke were my breakfast. Managing finances and choosing the right meal were daily struggles. I had been a sporty kid growing up and never imagined myself relying on cigarettes and unhealthy food.
I rarely played sports. The only activity I engaged in was cricket and football at the high school next to the Adam’s Building, mainly for socializing. Physical health was not my goal.
Things changed when my mother came to stay with me during my family’s citizenship process. That period remains the most beautiful and memorable part of my education journey. I ate home cooked meals three times a day and went to the gym regularly. I recommend students learn how to cook, stay active, eat well and join sports clubs. A healthy body opens up an entirely new experience.
Not having a very diversified experience
I spent most of my time with people from South Asia and the Middle East. I wanted to meet others and understand different work ethics and cultures, but I stayed within my comfort zone. With students from more than 160 countries at McGill, I missed the chance to learn from so many backgrounds.
The diversity and inclusion I experienced at McGill could have been even richer if I had joined different student bodies. I advise future students to expand their social circles and learn from people across the world.
Not reaching out for help on time
Another important lesson is to reach out for help early. Whether it involves mental health, academics or finances, delays are harmful. I struggled with basic math courses and only later discovered Prep 101, a well-known academy. I eventually found a tutor and mentor from Lebanon who helped me stay on track. He is a brilliant friend who consistently ranked in the highest percentile and later became a doctor in the United States.
Students should never hesitate to seek financial help, academic support or mental health assistance. Contact teaching assistants, professors, tutors, aid offices and counseling services. It is better to seek help early than to suffer in silence.
Infatuation during studies
Infatuation or love can be troubling during an academic journey. The pressure to keep up with studies and juggling your love life can be troublesome for many.
I advise students not to chase love during their studies. Focus on building yourself. The right person will come later without distraction or pressure. Stay steady and perseverant on the path of education.
Not taking risks
I was fearful and cautious during my time at McGill. I wish I had taken more risks and been more adventurous. I travelled across eight states in the United States but always held back because of financial worries. Students should travel more during breaks, take road trips and explore different countries with friends from various backgrounds. If you do not travel, it is as if you have only read one page of the book of life.
Connecting less with nature and God
Whether one believes in God or not, connecting with nature and the inner self is essential. I believe my fears and anxiety would have been much less if I had strengthened my spiritual side. Meditation, walking in green spaces, watering plants, and quiet reflection help a person feel grounded and closer to inner peace.
Conclusion
These lessons remain with me every day, and I hope they can guide others as well. I try to improve myself with each passing day, reflecting on the purpose of life and the experiences I gained in my decade in Montreal.
Studying abroad and immigration are not easy journeys. I try to ease these paths for others by offering counseling and guidance to students and professionals. I believe in open communication and offer my services after understanding the complete background of those who reach out.
My portfolio website is open to anyone who wishes to connect, share their struggles, or talk about their ambitions.